Thanksgiving week! Can you believe it? The year has just flown by. I find myself busy this week doing the shopping, cleaning the house, and making preparations for family. Speaking of family… Are you feeling your temperature rise as the thought of family coming into your home (or you going into theirs) gets closer and closer? This is when I find that scripture in Romans 12:18 “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men” very convicting.
This is a great time to exercise your skills in communication and flexibility. We can stay focused on the negative, or we can look for creative ways to find a solution. Here’s an example from our house.
My daughter works as a nurse in an emergency room department. She works nights. Last year she let us know that she would be having to work the night before Thanksgiving and the night of Thanksgiving so that means she would be sleeping all day. I was disappointed that our Thanksgiving tradition was in jeopardy. Then I began to think about the disappointment that she would have when she realized that Thanksgiving would be passing by her without celebration. So I began to ask myself the question, how can we make Thanksgiving meaningful for the whole family? And that’s when I came up with an idea. How about Thanksgiving breakfast? I approached her with the thought and she loved it. We had so much fun planning the menu. We took the same ingredients of a Thanksgiving dinner and we applied it to breakfast. Pumpkin pancakes, turkey quiche, sweet potato fried pies, oatmeal with cranberries…you get the picture, don’t you? When Thanksgiving morning rolled around our daughter came in from work and we all set around the Thanksgiving table in our pajamas drinking pumpkin spice coffee and enjoying our brand new tradition! It was so much fun that we have decided to do it again this year.
So when you feel your temperature rising, and the thought of communicating with another family member over the Thanksgiving table gives you anxiety, try to figure out a way to be flexible, “trying to keep peace with everyone,” and perhaps finding a new way of communication with that one family member who makes it difficult. And who knows, perhaps next year you’ll decide to do it again just for fun. When we go back to Romans 12 and keep reading, we find this:
10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor;
11 not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord;
12 rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer,
13 contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality.
I pray each of you will have a wonderful week of Thanksgiving to God the Father of all creativity.
About the Writer:
Pam Brewer is Director of Women to Women Ministry of First Baptist Dallas, a wife, a mom, a grandmother, and grateful to be included in this great team of Yada Yada bloggers.