Can anything erase your love for your husband? What about your parents? Children? Your immediate response is likely “NO!” But that’s not the case for many women, including women in the church. A mistress or an addiction can seem to separate your husband from your love. Betrayal, neglect, abuse, terrible choices, and mental illness can often seem to separate parents and children from one another’s love. In many of these situations, physical separation may be the best choice for all, but does that include a separation from love? No. Are you asking “what makes me think I know so much when I haven’t lived your pain?” Romans 8 and I have lived through a few of the above. Maybe not your specific pain that is as individual as you are, but I have had many dark nights of the soul. Romans 8:34 tells us that Jesus is interceding for us, and verses 35 and 38-39 declare that there is no person or circumstance that can separate us from the love of Christ.
Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? Romans 8:35
For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39
“No person” means that not even you can separate yourself from His love. He is our example that we are to transfer into our own lives. Has anyone in your life ever nailed you to a cross and left you to die alone and humiliated? Probably not, so that means that no one has betrayed you or treated you as badly as we all have treated Jesus. My “little white lie” just to keep myself out of trouble nailed him to the cross. So did my gluttony, lust, selfishness, and unkindness. Even my failure to look at a stranger and recognize them as loved by the Lord while I turned my nose up in disdain drove those thorns into His lovely brow. Not to even mention the rest of my sins! With that in mind, is it OK with God that I reject those who have rejected me? We know the answer, like it or not – No! I think the whole key is there in verse 34: Jesus intercedes for us; His prayers keep us close to His heart and because His heart is close, He continues to intercede. What a wonderful loop! Who has hurt you deeper than you ever imagined possible? Pray for him or her! Wayward children? Pray for them. Abusive parents? Pray for them; you keep praying over those hurts because you are still struggling with them. Look, beloved sister, it all boils down to Jesus, you and your choice:
Do you choose to love? Do you choose obedience to the Lord and His directive in John 15:12 to love one another as I have loved you? It’s hard to make that choice, sister, but when you do, oh the joy and freedom you gain! When Jesus made the choice, He experienced death, but He gained the throne at the right hand of God! I choose to love.
About the Writer:
Cindy loves being an RN, wife, mom, and CiCi (that’s a grandmother, but I’m way too young for normal terminology) to one sweet little 5 year old girl. She loves the Lord with all her heart and wants to serve Him with gladness till her dying breath. Cindy plans on starting seminary very soon. She can hardly wait for Wednesday and Sunday to roll around so she can sing with the choir and experience just a sliver of the joy we’ll have when we all get to Heaven!