My husband was having a rough day, a really rough day. And he wasn’t pleasant to be around. I was considering whether I should tell him how difficult he was, go away, or tough it out when I clearly heard God’s voice say “wash his feet”. As is customary, I proceeded to argue with the voice in my head. After all, his feet aren’t my favorite thing about him, and they really weren’t dirty. But the voice persisted. “Wash his feet.”
I was standing in the kitchen looking for an answer, and I couldn’t just stand there without saying something I would regret, so I started washing the dishes, It was his turn to do them, and both of us really dislike the chore. I didn’t say a word, I just washed the dishes.
Something magical happened in that moment. The corners of his eyes softened. His shoulders relaxed a little bit. He started to breathe more deeply. When I was finished, he hugged me and thanked me. Just like that, we were back to being “us”. He felt better. What he needed most in his grumpiness was kindness.
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ has also forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32
Don’t we all need kindness when we are at our worst? I know when I’m having a rough day, the thing I need most is a hug. It’s not easy to hug me when I’m grumpy, but my husband does that for me. He hugs me even when I don’t want to be hugged because he knows I need it.
The Bible is full of examples of kindness, and many words about it. One of my favorite stories recently is in the book of Micah, and chapter 6 verse 8 jumped out at me:
Do justice. Love kindness. Walk humbly with God.
It really is that simple, and yet it takes discipline to stop and ask how I can show kindness in this moment. I don’t always manage to do that, but, when I do, it’s beautiful to see how God can use my kindness to show His presence to those around me.
About the Writer:
Wendy is a wife and mother who works full time in Risk Management. Here at First Dallas she serves in Sunday school, helps coordinate Angel tree, and teaches at Discipleship University. Her greatest joy comes from discovering how following Jesus can greatly impact her daily life and the lives of those she cares about in innumerable, practical ways.